When Humility Made Me Lose Myself

My mom loved me. I know that now with a settled kind of certainty. But one of the things she said to me over and over, even when I was very small, was this. Be humble. Be humble. Do not think too much of yourself. Do not take up too much room. I was a […]

What a Celebration of Life Taught Me About the Legacy I’m Building

Last week I sat in a packed room, surrounded by dozens of people, saying goodbye to a man whose teaching of the Bible quietly changed the course of my life. His name was John Mason. He was 83 years old. Thirty-three years ago, he and his wife, Margaret, taught the Young Married Class my husband […]

You Were Wired for This Love

There’s something inside you that aches to be loved. Not surface love. Not performance love. The kind of love that knows you completely and stays anyway. That ache isn’t a flaw. It’s not something to be embarrassed about or push down or fix. It’s how God made you. You were built for this from the […]

Third Culture Kid: When You Belong Everywhere and Nowhere

I was five years old, standing on a plastic kitchen chair with little flowers printed on it — the kind from the 60s — carefully striking a match and turning the gas knob on the stove at the same time. I was making myself sunny-side-up eggs. There was no babysitter. There was no one home. […]

Your Kids Don’t Need a Perfect Parent. They Need a Present One.

Can I be honest with you about something? There have been days I was physically in the same room as my kids — sitting right there on the couch — and I was completely somewhere else. Reading. Thinking about my to-do list. Half-listening to a story they were so excited to tell me. Maybe you’ve […]

When Our Needs Go Unmet: Why Living From a Deficit Is So Exhausting

Have you ever had one of those quiet moments where you realize you’re doing so much, yet somehow still feel like it’s not enough? You work harder.You give more.You try to be the best parent, the best friend, the most faithful servant, the most responsible person in the room. And yet, somewhere deep inside, there’s […]

You Don’t Have to Be Strong Here

A note for HopeKids moms joining The Purple Room If you’re a HopeKids mom reading this, I want to say something gently and clearly from the very beginning: You carry more than most people will ever understand. You love fiercely. You advocate constantly. You make impossible decisions. You show up for appointments, conversations, and moments […]