A note for HopeKids moms joining The Purple Room
If you’re a HopeKids mom reading this, I want to say something gently and clearly from the very beginning:
You carry more than most people will ever understand.
You love fiercely. You advocate constantly. You make impossible decisions. You show up for appointments, conversations, and moments that require more courage than words can describe. And somewhere along the way, people began calling you strong.
They meant it as a compliment.
But strength, when it’s required every day, becomes heavy.
This space—The Purple Room—was created with you in mind.
The Quiet Weight of Always Being “Strong”
When you’re a mom caring for a child with terminal illness or significant medical needs, strength often isn’t a choice—it’s survival.
You learn how to hold it together.
You learn what not to say out loud.
You learn how to smile when your heart feels like it might split in two.
And over time, strength becomes something you wear… even when you’re exhausted underneath it.
What people don’t always see is that strength can be lonely.
Because when you’re the strong one, people assume you’re okay.
They assume you don’t need help.
They assume you’ll speak up if you need something.
But what if you’re tired of speaking?
What if you don’t even know what you need anymore?
What If You Didn’t Have to Hold It Together for One Hour?
The Purple Room isn’t a place where you’re asked to explain your story.
It’s not a support group where you’re expected to share details or offer advice.
It’s simply a space to exhale.
Here, you don’t have to:
- Be strong
- Be articulate
- Be hopeful
- Be encouraging
- Be anything other than yourself
You can listen.
You can journal.
You can sit quietly.
You can cry—or not.
You don’t even need to turn on your camera.
For many moms, that alone brings relief.
God Meets Us Where We Are—Not Where We Pretend to Be
There’s something holy about spaces where nothing is required of you.
Scripture reminds us that God draws near not when we’re impressive, but when we’re honest.
“My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”
— 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NLT)
Weakness isn’t failure.
It’s simply the place where we stop pretending we’re okay when we’re not.
In The Purple Room, we trust that God is present in the quiet—
in the pauses,
in the listening,
in the moments where words don’t come easily.
You don’t have to perform faith here.
You don’t have to find meaning or make sense of your pain.
You’re allowed to just be held.
You Are Still a Person—Not Just a Caregiver
So much of your life revolves around caring for others.
Appointments. Schedules. Medications. Advocacy. Decisions.
Your world becomes centered around needs that never pause.
The Purple Room is a reminder that you matter too.
Not because of what you do.
Not because of how well you cope.
But simply because you are a beloved daughter of God.
This space exists to gently give something back to you.
A Gentle Invitation for January 20
If you’re joining The Purple Room on January 20, please hear this clearly:
There is nothing you need to prepare.
Nothing you need to figure out.
Nothing you need to carry with you into the space.
Just come as you are.
Tired is okay.
Quiet is okay.
Unsure is okay.
You don’t have to be strong here.
