The gentle, practical guide every Believer needs for protecting their healing, peace and emotional strength.
Have you ever had a moment where you felt so free—so released, so light—only to wake up a week later wondering, “What happened? Why do I feel tangled up again?”
If you have, you’re not alone.
Living free is one thing… guarding that freedom is another. And today, I want to sit with you—like we’re sharing a quiet coffee together—and talk about what it really looks like to protect what God has given you.
Because your freedom is precious. And it deserves to be guarded with tenderness, intention, and truth.
Let’s dive in.
What Freedom Really Means (And Why It’s Worth Protecting)
Freedom isn’t just the absence of the thing that held you back. It’s the presence of something new. Something holy. Something life-giving.
Most people think freedom is just:
- No more anxiety.
- No more shame.
- No more old patterns.
And while that’s beautiful, it’s only half the story.
Real biblical freedom is this deep, inner knowing that:
- You’re no longer defined by what happened to you.
- Your mind and emotions are no longer running your life.
- You’ve been restored at the root—not just pruned on the surface.
And once God has set you free, the enemy will absolutely try to steal it back—not always through big, dramatic attacks, but usually through everyday life, old patterns of thinking, subtle lies, and emotional triggers that sneak in when you’re tired, discouraged, or overwhelmed.
So guarding your freedom isn’t optional.
It’s essential.
Not because you’re weak… but because you’re human.
Let me say it plainly: Your soul needs maintenance just like your body, your car, your relationships, and your faith. Freedom isn’t preserved passively—it’s protected intentionally.
And the moment you understand that, everything shifts.
Because instead of feeling like you lost something, you begin to recognize the signs earlier. You learn how to redirect your thoughts. You learn how to speak truth over yourself before lies settle in. You learn how to live from freedom, not for freedom.
This is the heart behind guarding your freedom—not striving, not fear, not self-protection…
but staying aligned with what God already gave you.
The Subtle Ways We Lose Our Freedom (Without Realizing It)
Let’s talk about the sneaky ways freedom slips through our fingers—not because we’re doing something wrong, but because we’re not actively doing something right.
And friend… this is where most people get stuck.
Here are the most common ways people unintentionally drift from freedom:
1. Old Thought Patterns Sneak Back In
Sometimes they tiptoe. Sometimes they roar.
You know the ones…
- “Maybe I’m not really free.”
- “Maybe nothing has actually changed.”
- “Maybe I overreacted—maybe healing just isn’t for me.”
These thoughts don’t show up because they’re true.
They show up because they’re familiar.
2. Emotional Triggers Reactivate Old Wounds
You can be doing so well—and then one comment, one memory, one stressful moment brings an old pattern to the surface.
It doesn’t mean you’ve lost your freedom.
It means something inside is asking for attention.
3. Fatigue Weakens Spiritual Clarity
Sleep, rest, boundaries, nutrition—they matter more than we think.
A tired brain defaults to automatic patterns instead of healed ones.
4. Isolation Creates Vulnerability
You weren’t designed to walk this out alone.
Lies grow louder in silence.
Truth grows louder in community.
5. Not Renewing Your Mind Daily
Freedom is established in a moment, but maintained in rhythms:
- prayer
- Scripture
- journaling
- reflection
- community
- stillness
We drift when the rhythms drift.
Here’s the good news:
Nothing you face can erase the freedom God gave you.
It can only distract you from living in it.
Once you understand what pulls you away, you can begin strengthening what keeps you grounded.
How to Guard Your Freedom Daily (Simple Practices That Actually Work)
This is the part where your life begins to shift—because guarding your freedom isn’t complicated, but it does require intentionality.
Here are the practices that have helped countless people stay grounded, clear, and connected to the truth God spoke over them:
1. Pay Attention to Your Emotional Dashboard
Your emotions are signals, not enemies.
They tell you when:
- a lie slipped in,
- a boundary got crossed,
- a wound needs attention,
- or your soul needs rest.
Instead of ignoring your emotions, check in with them the way you check in with your car’s dashboard.
You wouldn’t ignore the warning light on your car… so don’t ignore it in your soul either.
2. Replace Lies With Truth Immediately
The thoughts that steal your freedom always start small.
When a lie enters your mind, don’t negotiate with it.
Replace it—instantly—with truth.
Some of my favorite truths:
- “Whom the Son sets free is free indeed.”
- “I have the mind of Christ.”
- “God is not finished with me.”
- “My feelings are real, but they are not my leader.”
Truth is one of your most powerful weapons.
3. Guard Your Inputs
What you consume becomes what you carry.
That includes:
- conversations
- social media
- TV shows
- music
- news
- even the people you spend time with
Freedom requires wisdom around what you let inside.
4. Create Daily Connection With God
Not perfection.
Not strict rules.
Just connection.
This can look like:
- reading one verse slowly,
- listening to worship while getting ready,
- journaling for 3 minutes,
- taking a walk with God,
- sitting in silence for 60 seconds.
Freedom is nurtured in intimacy.
5. Stay in Community
Healing happens in safe spaces.
Growth happens in supported spaces.
Freedom is sustained in accountable spaces.
When you walk with people who are healing too, you feel less alone and more grounded.
(And yes—this is exactly why The Purple Room exists.)
6. Celebrate Your Progress
We guard what we value.
So value your growth.
Value your freedom.
Value your healing journey.
Celebrate the small victories—they add up.
These practices don’t earn your freedom…
They simply protect what God already gave you.
The Science of Staying Free: Why Your Brain Needs Protection Too
Okay—now let’s talk about what science says about guarding your freedom.
What’s so beautiful is that what the Bible teaches spiritually, neuroscience confirms physically.
Here’s why guarding your freedom matters on a scientific level:
1. Your Brain Has “Default Pathways”
Your brain loves familiarity—even if it’s painful.
Old thought patterns create strong neural pathways.
New, healthier patterns start weak but grow through repetition.
This means:
- If you don’t intentionally use the new pathway,
- Your brain will automatically return to the old one.
Guarding your freedom = strengthening the new neural pathway.
2. Emotion Triggers Activate the Limbic System
The limbic system controls emotional memory.
When something reminds you of an old wound, the brain reacts as if the threat is happening right now.
Guarding your freedom involves:
- calming the limbic system,
- grounding your body,
- speaking truth to your emotions,
- slowing down your reactions.
3. Stress Shrinks Your Ability to Think Clearly
When overwhelmed or fatigued, your brain shifts from your prefrontal cortex (logic + reasoning) to your survival brain.
This is why:
- you feel more fragile when tired,
- triggers feel bigger,
- old patterns feel easier.
Guarding your freedom requires protecting your nervous system.
4. Community Regulates the Nervous System
Science calls this co-regulation.
When you talk to someone safe:
- your heart rate slows,
- your stress hormones decrease,
- clarity returns,
- your brain feels safe again.
This is why healing is stronger in community than in isolation.
5. Renewal of the Mind Literally Reshapes the Brain
Neuroscientists call it neuroplasticity.
The Bible called it renewing your mind long before scientists discovered it.
Every time you:
- choose truth,
- interrupt an old pattern,
- breathe through a trigger,
- pray instead of panic,
- journal instead of spiral,
…you are physically rewiring your brain toward freedom.
Isn’t that breathtaking?
Science and Scripture aren’t in conflict here—they’re in harmony.
What Happens When You Guard Your Freedom (And What Your Life Begins to Feel Like)
I want to paint a picture for you—because this is where it gets beautiful.
When you guard your freedom consistently, your life begins to feel different. Not perfect. Not drama-free.
But deeply rooted, steady, clear, grounded, and peaceful.
Here’s what typically changes:
1. Your Triggers Don’t Control You Anymore
You still notice them—but you respond instead of react.
There’s a difference.
2. You Recover Faster
What used to take you days now takes you minutes or hours.
This is one of the biggest signs of maturity.
3. You Become More Aware of God
Not just in church. Not just in crisis.
But all day long—in small, simple, ordinary moments.
4. Your Relationships Get Healthier
Freedom changes how you show up.
It makes space for patience, grace, compassion, boundaries, and joy.
5. Your Thought Life Becomes Calmer
You stop spiraling.
You stop overthinking.
You stop assuming the worst.
Your inner world gets quieter.
6. You Begin to Walk in Authority
Not pride.
Not perfection.
Just a quiet, steady knowing that God is with you—and you are free.
Friend, this is what you were made for.
Not temporary freedom.
Not emotional roller coasters.
Not spiritual highs that fade by morning.
But a life of deep, lasting, guarded freedom.
A Gentle Invitation to Keep Going
If you’ve made it this far, hear me:
You are not behind.
You are not failing.
You are not alone in this journey.
You’re learning what it means to live free, not just get free.
And that takes time, tenderness, wisdom, and support.
If you’re craving a place where you can talk about these things…
a place where you feel safe…
a place where you can process without judgment…
a place where you can grow spiritually and emotionally with others on the same path…
Then I want to gently invite you to join The Purple Room.
It’s a sacred space inside EvenBetter where women show up anonymously, honestly, and wholeheartedly—
to heal, grow, and be deeply seen.
